Life Changing…..In A Good Way

Sharon and Richard struggled for years with fertility treatment, but a happy ending was in sight when they realised adoption really was for them.
 

Would we do it again? Absolutely!

"As with many adopters, adoption was the next natural step for us to consider after years of fertility treatment. Off we went to an information evening, decided it was something we wanted to go ahead with and arranged a home visit. The social worker who visited us was lovely and when she went, she left us with a DVD to watch which explained adoption and the process from an adopters point of view.

After watching the DVD, we realised that there was more to the adoption process than we had first thought and that we needed time to get over and accept everything we had been through up until then. We made a conscious decision that we would be childless and sold our house – that was always intended to be a family home - and moved to a town centre flat.

Some years later we each, separately, began to change our views on what we wanted from our lives. We sat down and realised that we both felt the same - something was missing from our lives and that something was a child. We were (finally) ready to consider adoption again.

It was a long and arduous journey and there were many times when we wondered why we were putting ourselves through it BUT in the back of our minds we kept thinking “stick with it…it’ll be worth it in the end". And it was.

Meeting our little boy (then 2 ½ yrs old) for the first time was amazing! He called us Mummy and Daddy from the outset and despite introductions being extended, he settled from the minute we brought him home. The first night was a very surreal experience – we sat on the sofa looking up at the ceiling saying “wow – this is it – we’re finally parents!”  and there was many an evening when one of us would be sat by his cot, just looking at this little boy, our son, with wonderment on our faces. Even today these are moments that still bring a tear to our eyes. Ten months later his adoption order was granted and he was legally ours.

A couple of years later, we decided it would be lovely for him to have a brother or sister. It would have been easy to have been put off by our experience first time round BUT we couldn’t have been more wrong. Our social worker was absolutely brilliant and the process much smoother and quicker than before.  We were encouraged to meet up with other adopters who had adopted twice and the insight we gained from them is still proving to be invaluable.

We started introductions on the 2^nd January this year and she came home with us on the 6^th….just two weeks before her 1^st birthday. Her adoption order was granted in the summer.

The two children get on famously – he’s the big, protective brother and she’s a proper little toddler.

Would we do it again? Absolutely! So watch this space...!"

Sharon & Richard

"I wouldn't change a thing"

Welcome to our first blog! We're hoping to share experiences of some of our Buckinghamshire adopters and foster carers to show you what fostering and adoption is really like. 

This week is National Adoption Week so we thought we'd kick off with a lovely family who adopted their daughter over 2 years ago. 

  

The joys of adoption and building your family always far outweighs the difficulties.  Lynda and Robin adopted their daughter 2 and a half years ago and have never looked back... here's their story.